GOING TO START POSTING HERE AGAIN

Over the years I have lost track of the emails I have gotten about this blog. They fell into 3 categories:

• Thanking me for talking about what happened to me because it validated their experience(s) with their alleged Narcissist or Socio/Psychopath
• Telling me about their experience with Yid with Lid re: his blog or in person. 100% of what they told me validated the pattern of pathology I identified in his treatment of me after all my therapy, clinic stay and C-PTSD management work with counselors.
• Begging me to start posting here again because they needed more validation for their own pathological relationships

I decided to start doing the last. Not because there is anything at all left to say about Yid with Lid. Nor am I interested in 'stirring it all up again.' But I am going to do what was requested. Use this story to continue to educate others about this sort of destructive interpersonal pathology, how it works, and that it is in NO WAY the fault of us victims! My friend Kathy Krajco, who wrote EXTENSIVELY on Narcissism passed away in 2007. Her insightful writing is deeply missed but I will use some of what she'd written about a Pathological's traits, rather than what I consider to be the obtuse DSM-V description. Eight red flags of narcissism as listed originally by (now deceased) Kathy Krajco:

1. puts on a conspicuous display of goodness and kindness
2. damages the images of most others
3. has a history of past upheavals
4. is hated for mysterious reasons by people close to them
5. exhibits unnatural and perplexing behavior -- backwards reactions to things
6. is a control freak, trampling privacy/boundaries
7. is extremely self-absorbed
8. has a hostile reaction to attention and credit given others

I will post about these Eight Red Flags in the context of what Yid with Lid did to me to illustrate the pathology, as well as more as I identify it. I hope this helps someone with their ongoing healing, as it has helped me. I have spent the last couple years working towards getting my counseling degree to be able to help the thousands of victims of these types of men. Their pain is mine - and the effects are profound. We may never be the same - but we can move forward. 

 "Whosoever saves one life, saves the world entire." - Talmud